Real Friendship

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I once heard a preacher say that if you’ve got 5 true friends that you should consider yourself blessed.  When he spoke of “true friends,” he was talking about a very special relationship between two people.  A true friend is someone that you can laugh with, cry with, yell at and tell your innermost thoughts to without fear of being judged.  Most importantly, you can count on your real friend to celebrate with you when things are good in your life…and you can count on their support when you face life’s obstacles and challenges.

One of the true hallmarks of friendship is to be able to tell that person when they are headed down the wrong path.  No one likes to hear that…even from someone they know loves them.  The responsibility of a true friend, however, is to speak up!  If you don’t say anything to them, who will?  Should you just watch your loved one be hit by bus without warning them?  While it may be a little uncomfortable, the best course of action—if you truly love somebody—is to tell them what you see that could harm them…to tell them what you see that they are doing wrong.  If they can accept it from anybody…they can accept it from a true friend.  They are counting on your counsel and guidance—even if they don’t want to hear it.  The other day, I thought about the fact that I would be upset if one of my true friends saw me headed in the wrong direction and just watched without saying a word!  While we try to give people their space and allow them to live their own lives, we still have a responsibility to correct and rebuke.  The Bible gives us that example.  One passage that comes to mind is when Samuel confronts David about his affair with Bathsheba.  Samuel was very stern with David.  David needed his friend to be real with him and set him back on the right path.  I’m sure David was grateful for Samuel’s intervention.

Don’t just watch a friend make a big mistake or a bad decision.  Speak up!  If you are really true friends, your friendship can handle it…and later…your friend will thank you!

One Response

  1. Mimi Says:

    I think this is so true! Some times we have to speak up, even if our friend doesn’t like it. They might stop talking to you for a little while, but in the long run they will appreciate it.

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